Captivation is the state of being fascinated, intrigued, or interested in someone. When someone is captivating, it implies that they have charisma or allure that creates a lasting impact on the person experiencing it. It is a key element of charisma as it involves capturing someone’s attention and engaging with them in a way that ‘almost’ seems magical.
How Can I Tell if I’m Captivating?
When you are looking to check if you are being captivating, charming, or charismatic, then you have to ask yourself the following questions:
- Is the person I am speaking to feeling positive about me?
- Have I changed their thoughts, feelings, or opinions after speaking to them?
- Can I connect with this person?
- Will they leave the conversation feeling emotionally moved?
If you answered yes to all those questions, then good news! There is a highly likely chance you can influence others through captivation. If not, that’s no problem! We offer charisma coaching online, so if you are looking to improve your communication skills, book a discovery call below:
Captivation vs Interest
You have to make the distinction between someone’s interest in a subject and you captivating them with your communication. You do have to draw the line somewhere, and I believe the difference is:
Interest is the initial spark someone has in a topic or concept; captivation is their attention towards you in a found and compelling way.
While the two might feel interchangeable, there is a difference. With captivation, you want to create an emotional investment rather than just piquing their curiosity.
Common Mistakes About Captivation
You may believe that your ability to showcase captivation may be excellent. I guarantee you that you will be making a number of common mistakes that will be killing your charisma. Some common mistakes when it comes to captivation are:
- Neglecting your body language
- Being statistic-forward, rather than emotion-forward
- Displaying arrogance, not confidence
- Having conversations about yourself
- Not listening to what the other person is saying
- Projecting negative body language
- Creating a bad first impression
So you can see that it is straightforward to have your captivation crumble apart with just a few mistakes.
The Psychology of Captivation
When you are captivating someone, there is a range of psychological and human behavior effects taking place. As a majority of captivation happens in the mind, you need to understand the psychological and chemical effects that are taking place, such as:
Dopamine
Dopamine, also known as the ‘feel-good’ hormone, is released when we engage with someone in a conversation; it stimulates dopamine to release, and people feel fondness towards you.
Oxytocin
Known as the ‘bonding hormone,’ oxytocin is released when we are feeling a connection with someone. It is released by making eye contact with someone, which helps to build trust.
Emotional Engagement
Your communication must connect with someone on an emotional level. Does what you are saying make them happy, passionate, excited, sad, worried, or curious? Really focus on how you can inspire emotion in another person.
How Do I Improve My Captivation?
You can improve your captivation through charisma coaching. Become someone who commands attention as soon as you walk into a room and conveys authority and likability by harnessing your charisma. If you want to take the next step to improve your captivation, then book your discovery call below:
